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…on “Please Take Off My Van Halen Shirt Before You Jinx The Band And They Break Up”

Posted in Brain Droppings, Chick, Dating, Music, Romance, Sex with tags , , on January 31, 2012 by journeymantojo

Sitting here going through some YouTube videos listening to some old faves when the thought popped into my head “Man, even though there is still an emotional twinge I feel when I listen to the song, I’m glad she didn’t ruin this band for me.”

You see, I hate the concept of “This is our song!” I mean, I get the notion and it’s inevitable because music speaks to us on a primal level. It helps trigger the memory. So sometimes it can be an awesome mnemonic device for remembering the better memories. But the part I hate is when you go through the hairy ass break-up. It always means that when you listen to a song, the emotional connection reemerges.

Now in some cases it’s okay. She was a huge John Mayer fan. So when ever I hear Mr. Mayer, I think of her and my blood boils up a bit. It was a seriously hairy ass break-up. So the “hate” springs back up. So naturally I’m gonna hate the artist because he is inadvertently bringing up the memory. But I can say that I’ve never liked John. So….no loss. Don’t like John Mayer, so I don’t have a hard time changing the station. It actually gives me more reasons to not like his music haha! (Like you needed more reasons?!)

It does suck when you are into a band though. Now you have to either dwell on the good moments in a fit of emotional suffering because the connection is there with the song or change the station. Which you don’t want to do because you liked that song before you even met that bitch.

Yeah, those are the “This is our song!” moments. The ones that make you hate a band because every time you hear Use Somebody, you get down.

“She reached across the console and took my hand. Looks into my eyes and said ‘I feel like this because no one ever got me the way you do’. It’s our anthem.”

So when I hear it, I remember those words and have to change the station. Which sucks. It’s a great song. I’ve gotten over her and have moved on. And now I hear the song and hear a good song. But every now and again, the connection creeps back.

Thankfully she never ruined Jack Johnson. That would have sucked. Flake is an awesome tune to hear when you are trying to pull yourself out of that pit. Or The Bravery.

And I would have been livid if she had ruined Marvin Gaye. But then again, Let’s Get It On is a love making song… there’s no emotional attachment associated with that song for us guys haha!

Now I get to leave you with a song that just makes me smile.

You guys have fun. And if she says “This is our song!” Respond with “Oh hell no. I don’t want to have to go through the hell of hating good music if we break up. Let’s make a song I hate our song!” 😛


…on “Don’t Take It So Seriously, It’s Just Sex”

Posted in Brain Droppings, Dating, Deep Ponderings, Romance, Sex with tags , , , , , on January 4, 2012 by journeymantojo

Me and a buddy were talking about sex today….because that’s what guys do. And it got me to thinking about how……Victorian some people are about this shit.

I’ll admit, I think of sex as a philosophical and spiritual experience. To where every time I lay with a woman it’s an epic thing and means so much. But in the same breath….it’s sex. If you can’t talk about it, it really makes me think about how little you think of it.

I don’t obsess over it but let’s be realistic here, if I’m not having sex then I’m thinking of it on occasion. Because it’s awesome. Hell, even the awkward, first time with someone sex is still pretty good. I have a friend who says sex is like pizza. There is really great pizza and then there is pizza, I’ve never had “bad” pizza. I agree.

But my point is, you don’t have to kiss and tell every little detail but it’s okay to talk about it. It’s 2012. I have a good many female friends and guy friends and it is nothing for the talks amongst us to range from cars, sports, video games, politics, philosophy, religion, and sex. Hell, we talk about everything with candor. Again, not the finite details, but openness is something I consider a great quality. To me it just comes off that if you can’t “discuss” sex then it means your not exactly an open person. And you have a very hard time with your own self image.

For clarity, I don’t need the all the details about your first experience with <insert sexual act here> but every aspect of life is a good story and some of the best talks to ever be had is when you can lay it all out there.

Now I figure that some people don’t share this opinion, and not every body will. But in the midst of talking and sex comes up….don’t freak. Just roll with it. Maybe being a little direct would help.


Side notes: I am horrible at the “game”. Everything will be stated in a direct fashion. It’s not because I’m socially awkward. It’s because I’m confident enough to say whatever it is I’m thinking. We can’t please all the people all the time, but you may find that if you are honest with yourself and to who you are….you end up meeting, and pleasing, the only people that will matter to you .